It’s tough being young for many folks today. Unlike the Baby Boomers who entered the workplace on a job-for-life basis if they so desired with cheap housing and no higher education debt, now, whether married or cohabiting, the expectations on each other mount as we try to buy a home, start a family or progress in our career.
When we are courting at the start of a relationship, a state called “Limerence” by Andrew Samuels, we are happy to let the world know of every detail but as the relationship becomes more permanent and longer lasting the problems in our relationship get bigger and our ability to deal with them may seem to get more difficult.
So it can be hard to talk about relationship difficulties with each other and many of us go through periods when our relationships make us unhappy or ill at ease. The inability to discuss these feelings makes us even more unhappy and worried and we may become anxious too. Some people feel they have no one to turn to and feel the problems have become unsolvable.
Couples therapy can offer a safe space to explore and understand what is going wrong and to work together on the difficulties. Poor communication or difficulty handling conflict are some of the typical issues raised. As you are in a relationship together it is preferable that you attend together, because the relationship and sexual difficulties rarely (if ever) “belong” to one partner or the other. If you don’t have a partner or s/he is not willing to attend, you are welcome to come to sessions on your own.
It won’t be easy, it may be tough and challenging but the longer that you leave things the harder a happy outcome will be – get in touch now.