Working with Couples Courses – Advanced level

COURSES TO BE RUN IN 2018/19

ADVANCED CERTIFICATE IN CLINICAL PRACTICE – COUPLE THERAPY

Focus on Unity Relationship Programme for Couples

Training for Professionals

FOCUS ON UNITY IS A PROGRAMME OF COUPLE THERAPY. THERE ARE 3 ONE DAY  AND ONE 2 DAY WORKSHOPS IN THIS SERIES designed by Mary Clegg.

This workshop shows Therapists how to work with couples using a fixed but flexible programme designed to take couples on a path from chaos to calm and enable the couple to start afresh and renew their relationship.  They will understand why they act as they do, their impact on their partner and how to work more effectively with each other to produce better results.

All one day workshops are in North West Dorset and cost £100.00 (EARLY BIRD BOOKED ONE MONTH BEFORE THE DATE) £120.00 AFTER.

Resources in Sexual Dysfunction is a 2 day workshop cost £250.00 (EARLY BIRD BOOKED ONE MONTH BEFORE THE DATE) £275.00 AFTER.

For all Mary’s workshops please contact Mary Clegg for a booking form and to make payment with her direct.

Email:  mary@maryclegg.co.uk

Part 1 FROM CHAOS TO CALM -Stabilising the Couple – First steps in Couple Therapy

4th December 2018 and 8th October 2019

By the end of this course you will have

  • Examined arousal and its impact on the couple
  • Thought about the benefits of stabilisation and safety in couple dynamics
  • Explored methods of helping the couple soothe and calm themselves so that effective communication can take place
  • Seen Mary demonstrate a couple session using the techniques
  • Understood the importance of CORE documentation in producing outcome measures.
  • Documentation for enquiry forms, Practice agreements and first session

Part 2 Communication and Conflict Skills – Going for the win win in couple relationships

26th February 2019 and 3rd December 2019

Aims and Objectives

  • Understood the need for quality communication between a couple
  • Use a well known active listening technique and used role play to cement learning
  • Learnt about conflict styles and to go for the win win
  • Understood the need for rules of engagement to manage conflict
  • Explored why we are triggered to react by understanding our adaptions to life
  • Given tools to engage reciprocal behaviour

Part 3 Vision for the future of the Couple -Helping the couple stay on track and deepen their connection

16th April 2019

By the end of this workshop you will have

  • Understood the importance pair bonding behaviour
  • Got tools to help the couple re-evaluate their relationship for the future
  • Explored behaviour that will keep the relationship on a good footing
  • Discovered playful exercises that the couple can do to deepen connection
  • Understood the importance of learning each other’s Language of Love

Part 4 Resources in Sexual Dysfunction 

3/4th September 2019 

Aims and Objectives

  • Raise levels of awareness of resources that are available to help clients
  • Enable evaluation of these resources
  • Enhance knowledge of resources and how they can be used in practice
  • Look at treatment options for common sexual issues
  • Develop skills in dealing with sexual issues

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TESTIMONIALS from WORKSHOPS
Mary has outcome measures from all of her workshops.  The feedback from these workshops demonstrates that she maintains a very high standard of quality in her work.  The testimonials given to her are genuine and were not given anonymously but in email after the event. She is very happy to show any delegate these forms as she is rightly proud of them.
“I just wanted to thank you again for a fantastic day yesterday. As I said at the time, it is a sensitive subject and you were excellent. I feel that I have already learnt so much and when I have time to reflect properly I’m sure I will find I have benefited even more than I realise at this time.”

“Thank you very much for all the handouts which are so informative.  I really enjoyed the day.”
“I won’t be scared or wary if sexual issues come up in the consulting room”

“Thank you for a great workshop yesterday. I learned a lot and feel more able to talk to clients about sex or to refer them to a specialist, such as yourself.”

“I just wanted to say how much I enjoyed your workshop on Friday; it was both really interesting and entertaining.”

“Thank you for all the handouts and for such an informative day on Friday, there was so much I didn’t know but thought I did!!  It has already been beneficial to me in signposting clients in the right direction.”

“I just wanted to say thank you for all the handouts that you emailed from your day workshop of Sexual Resources. I’ve now had time to go through them properly and they are very, very useful.”
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6 Modules Working with Couples – 2 day workshops

Mary has teamed up with Juliet Grayson to offer her Working with Couples Courses.  There are 6 modules leading to a Certificate in Couples Counselling.  They can be taken in any order.
Whilst theses course is designed for people who are already, or want to work with couples, they will be very helpful for all counsellors and therapists – including those who work one to one and Health Professionals who also do counselling.

HOW TO BOOK

Please pay online or send a cheque made payable to Interaction Training Limited and send to Courtyard House, Moynes Court, Mathern, Chepstow, Monmouthshire, NP16 6HZ.  Have a look at www.therapyandcounselling.co.uk to book online.

To contact Sam, Juliet’s PA: email sambaker.pa @ gmail.com  (NB remove the spaces, they’ve been included to prevent robots from picking up the email address!!) or call on 01291 638805l

All are COSRT APPROVED: 14 HOURS 

Meeting Their Partner’s Needs
Exploring How People Get Their Needs Met In Relationships
Based on work by Anthony Robbins and Harville Hendrix

Tuesday 23 & Wednesday 24 October 2018

Teddington Baptist Church, Church Road, Teddington, Middlesex, TW11 8PF

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 9.45 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.15

COST               £235 full price

This course also uses video of a therapist working with a couple

By the end of the workshop you will have :

Understood the 6 needs according to Human Needs Psychology

Looked at where you are with regards to these needs

Thought about the stages of a relationship

Have watched and discussed some video of Anthony Robbins working

Discussed the ‘imago’ concepts of Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt

Explored developmental stages (attachment theory), and couple dynamics

Practiced working with these issues as a therapist

NB Juliet runs a separate day called Parent Infant Attachment and the Impact on Relationships. This has different content and is complementary to ‘Meeting Their Partner’s Needs’ which is more about the Developmental Stages than the early Attachment Issues.

SEX: AROUSAL & AGEING

Thursday 22 & Friday 23 November 2018

The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

PRICE: £215 if booked by 22 October 2018, £235 full price

By the end of this course, you will have

  • Understood the basics of human sexual functioning
  • Familiarised yourself with sexual terminology, and what words you are comfortable with using
  • Thought about life from the perspective of a person with different sexual preferences
  • Looked at childhood development with regard to sex
  • Thought about childhood messages received around sex
  • Learnt about the ageing process with regards to sexual functioning
  • Practised role-play situations discussing sex, sexuality or ageing

PLEASE NOTE:  THE CONTENT OF THIS COURSE IS OF A SEXUAL NATURE AND MANY OF THE IMAGES SHOWN ARE VERY EXPLICIT.  HOWEVER, ALL CONTENT IS RELEVANT TO THE COURSE.

COUPLES IN CONFLICT

For therapists who usually work one to one and want to explore more about working with couples

DATE             Tuesday 29 & Wednesday 30 January 2019

VENUE         The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 10 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.00

COST              £199 if booked by 29 November 2018, £215 if booked by 29 December 2018, £235 Full Price

Based on work by Susan Quillam and Sue Parker Hall

By the end of this course you will have

Examined conflict, and different styles that couples use

Thought about the benefits of arguing, and couples who avoid conflict

Explored Sue Parker Halls thoughts about the difference between anger and rage, including hot & cold rage

Briefly discussed the stress response: fight flight freeze and appease

Explored strategies for resolving conflict

Thought about some issues for the therapist working with domestic violence

Experienced using a ‘couple pot’ for exploring issues of rage

Explored some of John Gottman’s ideas about the Masters of Marriage and the Masters of Disaster

MEETING PARTNERS NEEDS

DATE             Tuesday 19 & Wednesday 20 March 2019

VENUE         The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 10 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.00

COST              £199 if booked by 19 January 2019, £215 if booked by 19 February 2019 – £235 full price

Exploring How People Get Their Needs Met In Relationships

Based on work by Anthony Robbins and Harville Hendrix

By the end of this course you will have

Understood the 6 needs according to Human Needs Psychology

Looked at where you are with regards to these needs

Thought about the stages of a relationship

Have watched and discussed some video of Anthony Robbins working

Discussed the ‘imago’ concepts of Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt

Explored developmental stages (attachment theory), and couple dynamics

Practised working with these issues as a therapist

COMMUNICATION & DIFFERENCE

 DATE           Tuesday 14 & Wednesday 15 May 2019

VENUE         The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 10 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.00

 COST              £199 if booked by 14 March 2019, £215 if booked by 14 April 2019 – £235 Full Price

 Understanding different styles of thinking & different ways of approaching things

Based on the de-centring model of Dr Michael Crowe and Jane Ridley; and on meta-programmes from Neuro-Linguistic Programming

This course also uses video of a therapist working with a couple.

By the end of the workshop you will have:

  • Seen a video of a couple in role-play using decentring and communication skills
  • Practiced listening for values, and helping a couple to discover shared values
  • Learnt about 5 different thinking styles (meta-programmes) that people use
  • Understood how meta-programme differences are a significant source of conflict
  • Learn what your personal meta-programme preferences are
  • Learn about language patterns that make communication easier
  • Practiced working with these issues in a role play situation

 

DEALING WITH AFFAIRS

DATE             Tuesday 23 & Wednesday 24 July 2019

VENUE         The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 10 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.00

 COST              £199 if booked by 23 May 2019, £215 if booked by 23 June 2019,  £235 full price

 Based on work by Rona Subotnik, Gloria Harris, Kate Epstein and the work of David Schnarch

By the end of this course you will have

  • Understood the prevalence of affairs, and different types of affair
  • Explored some of the reasons why they happen
  • Thought about common reactions to an affair
  • Looked at distorted and defeatist beliefs
  • Explored what is required in saying sorry and forgiveness
  • Helped a (role play) client confront their fears
  • Explored how the process of differentiation affects affairs, integrity and blame

 

Parent-Infant Attachment and the Impact on Adult Relationships 

DATE:        Tuesday 20 August 2019

VENUE:     The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS:  Arrive 9.45 for a 10 am start.     Finish by 4.45 pm

COST:         £100 if booked by 20 July 2019.  £120 full price

What happens to us during the first two years of life has a huge impact on how we relate as adults.  Adverse circumstances can literally shape the structure of the infant’s brain.  Our attachment styles form neural pathways that continue to be played out in our adult loving relationships.  This workshop will help you think about your clients from an attachment perspective … the person operating from the needy greedy Pre-Occupied Attachment Style, the Avoidant Attachment (who will be reluctant to engage in therapy), the Ambivalent (who blows hot and cold about you as their therapist) and the Disorganised Attachment Style (who is all over the place, and barely coherent!).

Mary will draw on the work of Glyn Hudson-Allez and bring together the thinking from neuroscience and developmental psychology.  She will explore the impact of our attachment style on our adult intimate relationships and sexual styles.

Topics covered will include:

  • The development of the infant brain
  • The physiological development of secure and insecure attachments
  • The seven ‘pre-programmed’ emotional circuits
  • The implication of right brain and left brain growth spurts
  • The different attachment styles
  • The impact of disruptions to the lust and sexual template

The Fundamentals of Working With Couples 

DATE             Tuesday 12 & Wednesday 13 November 2019

VENUE         The Grand Atlantic Hotel, Beach Road, Weston-super-Mare, BS23 1BA

TIMINGS      DAY 1 arrive from 9.30 for coffee, start at 10 – 5.30

DAY 2 arrive 9.15 to start 9.30 – 5.00

COST              £199 if booked by 12 September 2019, £215 if booked by 12 October 2019 £235 full price

 These courses are designed for counsellors and therapists who usually work with individuals and want to explore more about working with couples.

  • What to expect when working with couples
  • The first session
  • Decentring: a method for working with couples
  • How to start the couple communicating
  • How to help the couple negotiate
  • Framework for understanding relationship dynamics
  • Patterns of intimacy
  • Life stages
  • Dealing with sexual issues such as:

Erectile dysfunction

Premature ejaculation

Loss of desire and

vaginismus

  • When to refer on to another therapist 

TESTIMONIALS from WORKING WITH COUPLES WORKSHOPS

Mary has outcome measures from all of her workshops.  The feedback from these workshops demonstrates that she maintains a very high standard of quality in her work.  The testimonials given to her are genuine and were given via Juliet Grayson’s feedback protocols. She is very happy to show any delegate these forms as she is rightly proud of them.

A full and interesting course which will help counsellors to get the confidence to start thinking about working with couples. Fun, informative and supportive with expert trainers who are willing to impart their knowledge in a grounded and engaging way – Claire Bennett

As a participant who came to this training unsure but curious about whether I wanted to work with couples these two days taught me a great deal and has now helped me to make an informed choice. It was presented in an open accessible style and the sign of good training is that it was applicable to both new and experienced therapists. Anon

“Mary fearlessly brings to life the practicalities of working with couples. The workshop is full of fascinating content presented in a structured and accessible way. I’d recommend this course to anyone considering working with couples and those that already are but feel they need further training”. NT

“An excellent course, packed full of helpful information and resources. I would highly recommend it to therapists wanting to or currently doing couples work, as well as those working.” 1:1.

“Mary’s presentation and knowledge was inspiring and has given me more confidence when working with couples”.

“Down to earth, professional delivery of high quality information”. Vanessa Gajewska